My Rules For Life – Version 1.0

In no particular order…

  1. Have Goals. Work towards goals. Celebrate small victories and milestones. Celebrate failures as a testament your hard work and persistence.
  2. Go to the bathroom and pee before you leave, even if you don’t think you have to.
  3. Assume you’ll be doing more walking than you planned
  4. Let it go, or give and appropriate action/response, and then let it go.
  5. Take a break to help you keep going longer, fresher, better (faster, stronger!). Don’t take a break to put off things that need to be done.
  6. Turn ideas on their head, especially negative ones.
  7. Taking the T (subway) is almost like having a personal chauffeur if you think about it the right way.
  8. Don’t believe something or take something seriously because it’s popular, commonly accepted, etc. Question!
  9. If something isn’t working quite right, ask why and try to find an answer.
  10. Don’t assume you’re the problem.
  11. Forgive, but don’t forget.
  12. Allow people that influence your life negatively to drift out of your life. Even though there’s never enough time, try to remember to reach out to the good ones to let them know you care.
  13. Don’t eat the yellow snow.
  14. Call people on their bullshit, but try to do it in a way that gets them to think. You can’t change most people’s minds, but you’ll feel better doing your thoughts and values justice by expressing them well.
  15. Your body will get old a break. Don’t waste too much time on vanity.
  16. You will die one day, definately too soon. Still, you’ll probably wake up tomorrow and have to deal with things. Plan for tomorrow, but also seize today.
  17. Be well, but don’t try to live forever.
  18. Don’t let others tell you what you should value. Find your own truth.
  19. Games make your brain happy. Leave time for games.
  20. Moderation in all things, including moderation.
  21. Jealousy is useless. The rich and famous are just as miserable, if not more. Pay attention to your own lawn.
  22. You’re always competing with yourself and your own limitations. Learn from and share with others.
  23. It’s not okay to murder people when they tell you something is, ‘not that spicy’.
  24. Try new things, but you don’t have to try something if you don’t want to.
  25. You actually don’t have to overcome all of your fears. It’s okay to be afraid sometimes. You’re not Batman.
  26. Make rules for yourself, and change them when there’s a good reason. Hold fast when there isn’t.

Some States Are in a State, Some of Our Rights Aren’t Right

I don’t normally do this kind of thing, but this kind of news bounces around my head and sometimes wants to get out.

Tampons and Maxi Pads Banned From Texas Senate (But Guns Are Cool)

Women are being forced to throw out tampons and maxi pads to enter the Senate gallery, which has been confirmed by DPS. That’s right: menstruating women are being denied entry to the Senate gallery unless they throw out their supplies.

Additionally, diabetics are asked to throw out their sugar packets.

However, people with concealed handgun licenses are allowed to bypass long lines to enter the Capitol itself through the expedited CHL entrance, and per a DPS officer, if a person has a CHL, they can take their gun into the gallery.

Hate crime: Woman, girlfriend beaten in South Austin

A man they knew from the neighborhood started following them… the woman’s masculine dress prompted anti-gay slurs, she said. The woman’s girlfriend, 25, told the men to stop, in vain, the woman said… he kept shouting slurs and daring the woman to fight, she said. “Tell your b—- to stop looking at me,” the man told the woman’s girlfriend, whom he knew from high school.

The woman said she did her best to ignore him but he kept following. Her girlfriend tried to reason with the man, asking him to leave the couple alone, the woman said.

But then a second man came up, cursing both of the women, and the first man took a swing and punched the woman, she said. The couple said they fought back and other men quickly joined in, dragging the women apart.

The couple struggled to get back together, pressed against a car as the beating continued and no one came by to help, the woman said. “I didn’t think we were going to make it out,” she said.

Finally, one of the men said the police were coming. The attackers, laughing, fled in one direction and the women went the other way. Both women had lost their shoes in the scramble, and someone had ripped one of the victim’s shirt off. The men stole their phones and cash.

Governors of Ohio, Texas and Wisconsin have all signed bills limiting access to abortion

The Texas bill would ban abortions after 20 weeks, and restrict when women can take abortion pills. It would also only allow abortions in surgical facilities, and require doctors to have admitting privileges at area hospitals. These provisions would likely close 37 of the state’s 42 abortion clinics because the cost of compliance would be too high.

Last week, as a part of the state budget, Ohio Republican Gov. John Kasich signed new abortion restrictions into law. Women in the state will now be required to undergo an ultrasound before an abortion, and an abortion clinic’s ability to transfer patients to public hospitals will be limited. It would also effectively defund Planned Parenthood and other family planning groups.

Wisconsin Republican Gov. Scott Walker also signed a bill last week that would restrict abortions in his state, requiring doctors to have admitting privileges at a hospital within 30 minutes of their clinic.

Ohio Republicans protect boats, but not uteruses, from intrusive searches

The new law “eliminates these intrusive searches,” said Republican State Rep. Damschroder, the bill’s sponsor.

Because if there’s anything Ohio’s Republicans hate it’s “intrusive searches” – unless, of course, those searches are focused on women’s reproductive systems.

Scott Walker Quietly Signs Bill Requiring Ultrasounds For Wisconsin Abortions

Gov. Scott Walker quietly signed a contentious Republican bill Friday that would require women seeking abortions to undergo an ultrasound and ban doctors who lack admitting privileges at nearby hospitals from performing the procedures.

Arizona Republicans Propose Bill That Would Not Allow Atheists To Graduate High School

A group of Arizona politicians… have proposed a law (House Bill 2467) requiring public high school students to recite the following oath in order to graduate:
I, _______, do solemnly swear that I will support and defend the Constitution of the United States against all enemies, foreign and domestic, that I will bear true faith and allegiance to the same; that I take this obligation freely, without any mental reservation or purpose of evasion; and that I will well and faithfully discharge these duties; So help me God.

(I dislike the title of this article. I’m not an atheist, and it would be a hypocrite to say this oath too. It also wouldn’t prevent atheists from graduating. Instead, what it would do is make anyone who actually does believe in the Constitution of the United States and understand the Bill of Rights say something against their will because of their government’s law. It’s just sad.)

Supreme Court rules Drug Companies exempt from Lawsuits

…the US Supreme Court also made a ruling on lawsuits against drug companies for fraud, mislabeling, side effects and accidental death. From now on, 80 percent of all drugs are exempt from legal liability.

In a 5-4 vote, the US Supreme Court struck down a lower court’s ruling and award for the victim of a pharmaceutical drug’s adverse reaction. According to the victim and the state courts, the drug caused a flesh-eating side effect that left the patient permanently disfigured over most of her body. The adverse reaction was hidden by the drug maker and later forced to be included on all warning labels. But the highest court in the land ruled that the victim had no legal grounds to sue the corporation because its drugs are exempt from lawsuits.

Besides the larger implications of this, I keep thinking about the poor woman who… what? Now has to pay back the money she was awarded for winning the first lawsuit? Presumably it’s already put towards living and medical expenses?

Breastfeeding Viewed as Potential Terrorist Activity by New York Country Club

…Remans began to discreetly breastfeed her daughter Luka at the table.

Neijens, first secretary of the Belgium Mission to the UN, told the New York Post that a female employee of the club quickly interrupted Roseline’s perfectly legal and proper feeding of her baby with this sharp rebuke:

“Please leave immediately, you are disturbing the members!”

When Neijens protested and said it would only take a few minutes, the female staffer insisted that Remans finish in the restroom.

Understandably incredulous at the blatant ignorance on display at such a high end establishment, Mr. Neijens inquired why a baby would be asked to have lunch in the restroom when adults are not.

The Greenburgh Police Department arrived minutes later with Detective Scott Harding apparently yelling, “Close the doors!” with two other diners ordered to leave the terrace…

The officer warned the couple that they were trespassing despite the fact that country club staff had given them specific permission to dine. He also said that some fearful members thought Mr. Neijens’ black backpack indicated they were terrorists.

Hollie McNish, Poet Shamed By Breastfeeding In Public, Has The Last Word (VIDEO)

I thought it was OK.
I could understand the reasons.
They said: there might be a man or nervous child seeing this small piece of flesh that they weren’t quite expecting.
So I whispered and tiptoed with nervous discretion.
But after 6 months of her life sat sitting on lids,
Sipping on milk, nostrils sniffing on piss,
Trying not to bang her head on toilet roll dispensers,
I wonder if these public loo feeds offend her,
‘Cause I’m getting tired of discretion and being polite.
My baby’s first sips are drown-drenched in shite…

GOP, Gay Marriage, and Spin.

I wish I could write this without actual data. Yes, you heard me. Because at least then it would be conjecture or me guessing.

Instead, the data supports directly the items I’m going to iterate.

1) Support for Gay Marriage is drastically on the rise. According to NPR, who is known to be openly a supporter of the GOP, 70% of young Americans (18-32 year olds) are in support of gay marriage.

2) GOP are trying to make abortion funny, to attract voters. They’re hiring people to make sarcastic videos. To try and tap into this young market- and use those votes to ban abortion, and birth control, and gay marriage.

3) The response from organizations such as “Students for Life” – which is headed by a woman, even further confusing things, is quoted in this article as saying, “‘You’ve got to be pro-life, you’ve got be pro-marriage, or else you’re not going to get our money,” Hawkins said firmly.'”

Just in case you are not from the US, or not up to date on Conservative terms, “pro-marriage” means that you’re against any form of family unit that isn’t just a man, a woman, and their children. Oh, and they should be married before they have kids. Adoption is begrudgingly accepted, but only if you can’t have your own kids.

I don’t know a single pro-choice person who thinks abortion is funny. I do know people who abuse dark humor, but I can’t name any who actually believe that abortion is funny. Tragic that it had to happen, due to a lack of birth control, or just raw numbers, yes. Funny?

No.

These tactics are insane. No one suggests actually changing tactics.

No one on the conservative side suggests backing off on the issues that they are absolutely losing on. No one suggests considering that many many many people who are against them now WANT many things they want, but won’t bend on social issues.

I don’t understand these people, and why they won’t just.. THINK! Benefit humanity! Reduce Violence! Allow people to see their wives/husbands! Let their adopted children do the same!

This is just not really controversial to anyone who isn’t ruled by their parents, which.. yes.. is the young. Go figure.

Abuse of the Disabled by JetBlue

[Edit: JetBlue Response added to bottom. Discussion encouraged on any forum- our forums, G+, Facebook, Etc.]

Author notes: I am not TheSeize. My internet handle is Kiashien, although in a rare few cases, it has been taken by others, I am mostly that on the internet.

I have been “The Not Boyfriend” in the past, but I am angry enough about this issue to write about it. I’m currently “The Very Much Boyfriend, Thank You.” Or “The guy you can’t ignore around TheSeize because he’ll chime in even if he’s not wanted.” But whatever- I’m That Guy Noted A Bunch, and TheSeize asked to post this here, and I don’t have my own active blog, so I said sure.

My writing background is Pure Journalism (Not BS mainstream journalism- actual facts) so please forgive the stunt style- I am trying to convey actual viewed facts. I am trying very hard not to twist this. I honestly believe it does not need twisting.


Please read to the end- much of the beginning is just clarifying earlier experiences with the man, in question. I am going to be as fact-based and limiting my own opinion from the raw text as possible. I will differentiate at the end when I am giving my opinion.

Mcallen international airport

May 6, 2013

8:30 AM PST


TheSeize: “I really do need breakfast.”

Me: “Well, this pub serves breakfast. How about here?”


TheSeize: “If we have to wait much longer, we should just leave.”

Me: “We could just sit at the bar. They’re serving breakfast there.”

TheSeize: “Ok.”


Me: “I’ll take a Morning Glory [Ed: Grapefruit, Gran Marnier, Vodka, Triple Sec. Sue me, I was on vacation.]

TheSeize: “I’ll have a [Ed: Fancy coffee thing.]


Bartender returns shortly with drinks.


Bartender: “Did you decide on what to eat?”

TheSeize: “I’d like Eggs Benedict, but he doesn’t usually eat breakfast. Just some fruit would be good for him, is that possible?”

Bartender: “Oh yes, all of our items are Al a Carte.”

Me: “Thank you very much, that would be perfect.”


Food is served, with drinks.


9:00 AM PST (roughly)

 

 

A young looking man, I’d guess around 25 or younger, comes in. He is wearing a modern superman T-shirt, and a very small pack with the strap showing a brass band that states he is a US Navy Seal Veteran with a Honorable Discharge.

He orders a Budweiser- I only remember due to the bartender reading it back as “The King of Beers” (Yes, I know. I’m a beer snob too- but it is a memory cue.)

The Bartender thereafter refers to him as Superman. He never smiles from it, but he seems to take it as a term of respect.

He is obviously suffering from some form of mental issues- at the barest, PTSD. I and TheSeize talk normally to each other, and leave him be- he is next to us at the bar. He sometimes talks to the air, threatening the Evil to back off. He never makes a violent action whatsoever. He never even glares at another human being.

He is unfailingly polite to the server, and thanks him for being accommodating when he asks for fries, and can only get home fries, since it is too early for their kitchen to make fries.

We sat next to him for roughly 30 minutes. He had obvious mental issues, but never bothered anyone around him directly. He talked to himself sometimes, and was notably disturbed by his own mind, but he never tried to bother those around him, and went out of his way to be nice to the server.

When we leave, at about 9:30 to make our flight, once we are far enough away I comment to TheSeize: “I wonder if he was actually a navy seal, or just has a delusion due to mental issues.”

TheSeize: “Does it matter?”

Me: “I suppose not. Either way, I hope he’s treated well.”

Fast forward 20 minutes:

9:50 AM PST

May 6, 2013

JetBlue Airline

Flight 368 from Las Vegas to Boston

Current situation:

TheSeize and I are already seated.

We notice Superman getting on, and TheSeize comments to that effect to me.

I say something along the lines of “Oh, yea.” and go back to what I was reading.

I hear “Back Off!” snapped. TheSeize told me afterward that he was looking straight up when he said it- Much afterward.

What happened next is where my horror began.

Superman (I never got his name) went to sit down, and the man who was supposed to be sitting in the window seat (Superman was supposed to be the middle seat) asked to get by. Superman lets him by. As Superman sit down, the window seat man went to speak to the Captain and Flight Attendants.

After a moment, the Captain approached Superman. He started to speak to him, and Superman asked if he needed to produce his paperwork that stated he was safe to fly, or to verify that he was a veteran navy seal on honorable discharge. The Captain stated clearly that it would not be necessary.

Superman then asked if he had done anything wrong. The Captain clearly stated that no, he had not.

This is where things went  horribly wrong. The Captain asked Superman to accompany him (the Captain). Superman broke into tears, begging to know what he did wrong.

The Captain forced him off the plane. To be clear, no violence was used, and Superman complied in every single way. He never argued, never fought, and never acted in any way violent. He just did what he was asked to to do.

After a few minutes, after expressing how angry I was to TheSeize, I called for a Flight Attendant.

I did not ask TheSeize if it was okay, but when the Flight Attendant arrived, I immediately, and angrily, asked her if they had just removed a man from the plane for the sole reason of being mentally disabled, and told her in no uncertain terms that if whoever he was assigned to sit next to was not willing to sit next to him, I and my girlfriend (TheSeize) would do so.

The Attendant had come from the opposite end of the plane and immediately said she would go and see what was going on.


She goes.


A different Attendant comes down the aisle 5 or so minutes later. She politely explains the situation- that a mentally damaged ex-navy seal is supposed to be on this plane. A woman says she will not stay on this plane if he is on it. [Ed: At this point, I’m unbelievably angry.] The flight attendant explains that he he will be seated up front, next to a registered nurse who has volunteered to sit next to him for the flight. The woman reiterates that if he is on the plane, she will not be.

He is not allowed to return to the plane, and she is allowed to fly. With no penalty to her whatsoever.

The original flight attendant who had spoken to me came back and asked me if I understood the explanation. I said yes, I understand the situation, and asked why that one woman’s rights override the rights of Superman. (Wording simplified- TheSeize can confirm that I was reasonably polite given how angry I was… and still am.) She told me it was the Captain’s decision, and tried hard to get me to come with her to talk to him. It was obvious from a logic perspective that I had lost, so I chose not to speak to the Captain.


Superman was not allowed to return to the plane. His only crime was having a damaged brain- likely from serving the USA.


—————- End Journalistic Writing. Begin Opinions.

[Author’s note: I asked TheSeize afterward if she was upset that I offered for us to sit beside the man without asking her. She said absolutely not, and wondered why I asked. I said it was wrong for me to make that decision for her, even if I was sure she would be okay with it. We’re all good as far as that goes. We disagree often, but not about basic human rights.]

JetBlue- I used you exclusively since I am six and a half feet tall- and those inches matter a whole lot more to me. The extra money was nothing when you consider having to sit curled around your knees for six hours.

I will curl around my damned knees for six hours, and I will gladly take four hour layovers, if I never have to see a human being treated with such disrespect. He had a ticket, just like everyone else on that plane. He even had an Even More ticket- which means he Paid Extra to fly having a little more space. I’ve paid it before myself- it’s nice.


But to be blunt- you took advantage of the fact that he wouldn’t stand up and go “No. I have been screened already, and found a safe traveller by my doctors. I will sit here, and I will go where I am going.”

If it was me, I would have raised hell. It wasn’t me, and I raised as much hell as I could.

JetBlue- I am attaching my full flight info, and I am filing a formal complaint at the same time this Blog post goes live.

No, I will not remove it, but I will append it with your (JetBlue) responses.

It will take a whole lot to convince me that you (JetBlue) are taking this seriously- and offering me money, points, or discounts won’t do it. I actually need to see the problem fixed in policy  That affects Pilots and Captains or you just lost a multi-thousand yearly customer. I’d estimate my yearly plane purchases to be about  5,000 a year, including what I buy for others (and therefore doesn’t show in my trueblue account, so don’t try tracing it through that- it won’t work.)

Shape up.

And whatever gods anyone worship, I hope that poor man got home. If I didn’t have work the next day, I would have gotten off with him. I almost did regardless. … And if it was a normal day of work I would have, but things I can not discuss were going on, and I had to be there.

I am angry, disgusted, and altogether unhappy with how a fellow human being was treated. It was wrong- and worse still, the man was taken advantage of. I could have fought it if it was me- he did not have the capacity to fight it, and was abused for that reason.

[Edit: Response Added]

[Ed:

Prefix: My complaint directly linked this blog. It did not say much else, other than my personal information, to make sure they knew I was a actual person in their system.

I am not amused.

Sorry Jetblue, your response is inadequate.]

To: Kiashien
Re: email received Saturday,05/11/13 6:39 PM, Speak Up 3491317

Dear XXXXXXX [ed: Real name removed.],

[Ed: Absolutely no formatting has been applied to this email. Yes, it’s awful, but I didn’t do it.]

Thank you for your email regarding your recent JetBlue experience. We appreciate your feedback and
the opportunity to respond.

We regret any concerns you may have had in regard to the experience you described in your blog. We
share your respect and love for those who have served and/or are now serving our country.

At JetBlue Airways, our first and foremost concern has been and always will be the safety of our
customers, crewmembers, and aircraft. Our Captains are charged with making appropriate decisions
based on providing a comfortable and safe environment for everyone onboard, and we trust their
judgment.

As with all correspondence we receive regarding an Inflight experience, we will share your email
with our Chief Pilots for review and follow-up with the Captain of your flight.

Mr. XXXXXX, we recognize you have many options available to you when choosing an airline for your
travel plans. We hope you will continue to consider JetBlue Airways for those times our flight
schedules meet your needs.

Regards,

Leslie
Customer Commitment Crew
JetBlue Airways
Crewmember 23575

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More opinions.

There is absolutely no reason that Jetblue couldn’t have actually addressed this.

None.

JetBlue, until I know otherwise, I am telling both of my veteran parents to fly with someone else.

I am telling my multi-term veteran friend, who’s wedding I am attending in two weeks, and am likely selecting his airline, that I won’t pay for JetBlue tickets.

I am making sure my Air Force Major friend, and multiple ex-marines get this too.

And then, Internet… I waited for them to respond for this.. But this is wrong. Do your thing. Please.